Vai Raja Vai - Vandha Kadha

Perfect Gentleman

 எங்களுடைய குழுவில் ஒருவருக்குப் ‘Perfect Gentleman’ என்ற பட்டப்பெயர் உண்டு.

காரணம், அவர் எல்லாரிடமும் மிக இனிமையாகப் பழகுகிறவர். அவருடன் பணியாற்றிய பலரும் இதைச் சொல்லக் கேட்டிருக்கிறேன்.

ஆனால், நான் அவரோடு அதிகம் பேசியதில்லை. ஒரே ஒருமுறை நேரில் சந்தித்திருக்கிறேன். மற்றபடி மின்கூட்டங்களில்கூட அவர் பேசியதைக் கேட்டதில்லை.

ஆகவே, இவருக்கு இப்படியொரு நல்ல பெயர் எப்படி வந்தது என்கிற குறுகுறுப்பு எனக்கு எப்போதும் உண்டு. இவருடைய உத்திகளை, சிறந்த நடைமுறைகளைக் கற்றுக்கொள்ளவேண்டும் என்ற ஆர்வம் உண்டு.

சமீபத்தில், அதற்கான வாய்ப்பு அமைந்தது. ஒரு புதிய திட்டத்தில் நானும் அவரும் சேர்ந்து பணியாற்றவேண்டிய சூழல். ஆகவே, அவரோடு நேரடியாகப் பேசுகிறேன், பழகுகிறேன். உண்மையிலேயே அவர் ‘Perfect Gentleman’தான் என்று உணர்கிறேன்.

ஒருவருடைய பழகும்தன்மை என்பது நல்லவிதமாக இருந்தாலும் சரி, கெட்டவிதமாக இருந்தாலும் சரி, அதற்குப் பல விஷயங்கள் காரணமாக அமைகின்றன. ஆகவே, இதனால்தான் இவர் நன்கு பழகுகிறார் என்று யாராலும் உறுதியாகச் சொல்லிவிட இயலாது.

என்றாலும், இந்தப் பர்ஃபெக்ட் ஜென்டில்மேனிடம் நான் கற்றுக்கொண்ட விஷயங்கள் இவை:

அ

அலுவல் கூட்டங்களின் தொடக்கத்தில் சில வழக்கமான நலம் விசாரிப்புகள் இருக்கும். ஆனால், அவை பொதுவாகப் போலித்தனமான சொற்களாக அமையும். ‘சரி, சரி, சீக்கிரம் பேசவேண்டிய விஷயத்துக்கு வாங்க’ என்கிற பரபரப்பு தெரியும்.

ஆனால், இவருடைய நலம் விசாரிப்பு மிக உண்மையானதாகத் தோன்றுகிறது. நன்கு பொறுமையாகவும் வாஞ்சையாகவும் நம்மைப்பற்றி விசாரிக்கிறார்.

அதற்காக இவர் நிறைய நேரத்தை வீணடிப்பதும் இல்லை, மிகச் சில சொற்களுக்குள், நாம் நன்றாக இருக்கிறோமா என்பதைத் தெரிந்துகொள்கிற நிஜமான அக்கறையைக் காண்பித்துவிடுகிறார்.

ஆ

அவருடைய பகல், எனக்கு இரவு. என்னுடைய பகல், அவருக்கு இரவு. ஆகவே, நாங்கள் சந்திக்கும் நேரங்கள் யாரோ ஒருவருக்கு அலுவல் நேரமாக இருக்காது.

ஆகவே, என்னுடைய இரவு நேரத்தில் சந்திப்புகள் நிகழும்போதெல்லாம், அதற்காக உண்மையாக நன்றி தெரிவிக்கிறார். ‘அடுத்த கூட்டத்தை என்னுடைய இரவு நேரத்தில் வைத்துக்கொள்வோம், சிரமம் இருவருக்கும் சமமாக இருக்கட்டும்’ என்று வற்புறுத்துகிறார்.

இ

என்னிடம் என்ன தேவை என்பதைத் தெளிவாகச் சொல்கிறார். ‘இதைமட்டும் சொல்லுங்கள், மற்றதை நான் பார்த்துக்கொள்கிறேன்’ என்கிறார்.

இதன் பொருள், நம் நேரத்தை அவர் மதிக்கிறார்.

ஈ

என்னிடம் வருவதற்குமுன் அவர் வேறு யாரிடமாவது இதைப்பற்றிப் பேசியிருக்கலாம். அதை மறைக்காமல் சொல்கிறார். ‘அவர் இப்படிச் சொன்னார். நீங்கள் இதைப்பற்றி என்ன நினைக்கிறீர்கள்?’ என்று உறுத்தாமல் கேட்கிறார்.

உ

தனக்குத் தெரியாதவற்றைத் தெரியாது என்று ஒப்புக்கொள்ள அவர் தயங்குவதில்லை. அதே நேரம், இது தனக்குத் தெரியாதே என்கிற கழிவிரக்கமும் இல்லை. ‘நான் கற்றுக்கொள்ளத் தயார்’ என்று பேச்சால் உணர்த்துகிறார்.

ஊ

நம்மிடம் உள்ள நல்லவற்றை மனம் திறந்து பாராட்டுகிறார். அதே நேரம், அது வெற்றுப் புகழ்ச்சியாக இல்லை. ‘நீங்கள் இதைச் செய்தது எனக்குப் பிடித்திருந்தது, அதனால் இந்த நன்மை விளைந்திருப்பதாக நான் எண்ணுகிறேன்’ என்று தெளிவாகச் சொல்கிறார்.

எ

‘சேர்ந்து பணியாற்றுவோம்’ என்ற சொல்லை அடிக்கடி பயன்படுத்துகிறார். ‘நான் சொல்வதுதான் சரி’ என்று வலியுறுத்துவதும் இல்லை, அனைத்தையும் நம்மிடம் ஒப்படைத்துவிடுவதும் இல்லை, மாற்றுக் கருத்துகளைக் கேட்கத் தயாராக இருக்கிறார், மனத்தைத் திறந்துவைத்திருக்கிறார்.

ஏ

புதிய பணியொன்றுக்குப் பொறுப்பேற்கும்போது, அதற்குமுன் அங்கு பணியாற்றியவர்களுடைய உழைப்புக்கும் அறிவுக்கும் பெரிய மதிப்பளிக்கிறார். அவர்கள் படுமோசமாகச் சொதப்பியிருந்தாலும் சரி, ‘அதிலிருந்து நாம் கற்றுக்கொள்ளப் பல விஷயங்கள் உண்டு’ என்கிறார்.

ஐ

இவர் கச்சிதமானவர்தான். ஆனால், ‘எல்லாம் கச்சிதமா இருக்கணும், இல்லாட்டி எனக்குப் பிடிக்காது’ என்று முகம் சுளிப்பதில்லை.

அதாவது, தன்னைச் சுற்றியுள்ள மனிதர்கள், குழுக்கள், நிறுவனங்களிடம் குறைகள் இருக்கலாம் என்பதை ஏற்றுக்கொள்கிறார். அவற்றைச் சுட்டிக்காட்டிக் காயப்படுத்தாமல், அவர்களிடம் இருக்கும் நல்லவற்றைச் சொல்கிறார், குறைகளை நீக்க உதவுகிறார்.

ஒ

அவருடைய வேலையில் குறைகள், கருத்துகள், முன்னேற்றத்துக்கான வழிகளைச் சுட்டிக்காட்டினால், அதற்கு உண்மையாக நன்றி தெரிவிக்கிறார். அதில் தன்னுடைய கோணத்தை எடுத்துரைக்கிறார்.

ஆனால், இப்படித் தன்னுடைய தரப்பைச் சொல்லும்போது அவரிடம் எதிர்க்கிற மனநிலை இல்லை. தன்னுடைய சிந்தனையோ செயலோ தவறாக இருக்கலாம் என்பதை ஏற்றுக்கொள்கிறார். ‘நான் இதைப்பற்றிச் சிந்திப்பேன், தேவையானதைச் சரிசெய்வேன்’ என்கிறார்.

ஓ

மிக நிதானமாகப் பேசுகிறார். சிந்தனையில் தெளிவு இருந்தால்தான் இது சாத்தியம்.

ஔ

பிரமாதமான நகைச்சுவை உணர்ச்சி. கனமான அலுவல் விஷயங்களில் சிறிது கலகலப்பைக் கலந்து இனிமையாக்கிவிடுகிறார்.

இதனால், எட்டு மணி நேரக் கடும் உழைப்புக்கு நடுவில் இவரோடு பேசிய சில நிமிடங்கள் மனத்துக்குச் சிறு ஓய்வளிக்கின்றன, நம் நினைவில் தங்கிவிடுகின்றன.

Raise Your Standards

2020 Motivational Lines from online

We can’t control the hand we’re dealt, but we can get REALLY good at playing the game.

Don’t waste time lamenting the cards in your hand.

Take that energy and apply it to skill acquisition.

It will make you happier as you’ll be focusing on gaining mastery instead of all the things that are wrong in your life, and it will certainly allow you to move up in the world.

No matter what you’ve been told, if you can out perform, you can move up.


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Verified

Even the lessons you learn from success and failure are a choice.⁣⁣
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In success you can decide to learn you’re lucky or a hard worker.⁣⁣
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Decide hard work pays off and you’ll work twice as hard next time.⁣⁣
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In failure you can decide that you’re a loser or that failure will educate you and toughen you up.⁣⁣
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Decide it’s a learning opportunity and you’ll scrutinize it till you know the truth of why you failed and you won’t make that mistake the next time.⁣⁣
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Decide to focus on luck or identifying as a loser and you’ll be paralyzed.⁣⁣
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Be very thoughtful about what you decide to learn.

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Even now... set the fear aside. ⁣
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Who do you want to become? There’s no wrong answer if it’s real.

ஒரு காதல் தேவதை பூமியில் வந்தால்

Terry Matthew

And that’s the secret. Timing, hard work and smart partners. Using that formula, I’ve either founded or funded over 80 companies, and none have gone bankrupt. Most have done very well.” – Terry Matthew

Inspiring Story

I was fired for asking for 2 weeks break.

My wife was hospitalized.

Our boy with autism was 2 years old.

I was driving 2 miles everyday to pick him up from school and check-in on my wife.

Our families are in India. No one was close to help.

I was drained. I was down. I was less productive.

I needed a break.

I went to my boss, “Sir, I need two weeks break.”

He looked at me, “we have lots of work to do for clients”

I pressed further, “I need to sort some personal issues.”
“My wife is in the hospital and my son needs me”

He got angry, “it's not the end of the world”
“Are you the doctor? Hire a babysitter for your son!”

I told him, “I can't be productive at work with my present situation.”

He lost control, “I can't disappoint my clients either! Get out of my office!”

I left in tears. I cried before heading to my son's school.

He was crying when I got there. It was late already.

I looked at him & hugged him. He had fever.

I didn't go to work the next day because it was Friday.

I stayed with him all weekend.

I got to work on Monday, I was fired.

I left speechless.

6 years after, I had co-founded 4 companies.

I realized when you hit the bend, it's not the end. Never give away your family for work.

Thought

Scores Not a Matter...

He Scored only an average mark of 750 in his 12th Board Exam. But he was awarded as a ‘Young Scientist’ by NASA! (These Headings in the News paper attracts me towards the best read today)

World’s lightest and smallest Satellite.

• Mohammed Rifath Sharukh, a 17 year old young scientist made the World’s Lightest and Smallest Satellite!
• Pallapatti born, Karur district; Tamilnadu.
• NASA organised a competition. Over 8000 students from 57 countries participated. He was the only Indian who was selected among the 80 final selections.

About his Satellite:

• He named the Satellite ‘ KALAM SAT’ in memory of Dr. A.P.J. Abdul kalam.
• It weighs only 64 grams.(0.1 kg and 3.8 cm in size)
• “Space Kidz India” supported him.
• It was a complete Indian made Satellite.
• Uses:
• It will be used to detect the radiation in Space, and the changes in the atmosphere.
• It will stay only 240 minutes in space, then it will automatically fall in to the specified ocean. Finally, it will be taken out for research.
• Launch:
• On June 22nd, 2017 it will be launched through the SRK Rocket.
• If they launch successfully, then it will be used for Agriculture and Weather Monitoring.
• I wondered when I saw Mohammed Sharukh’s 12th Board Exam Mark Details:
• In Mathematics: 92/200.
• In Physics: 89/200(Practical Mark: 50)

(For the rest, he wrote only for 39 marks in theory! (Less than my marks!))

• He is one of the inspirations to the Students, who scored average marks in their Board Exams.
• For Parents: Marks don’t determine your Children, who they are. Every Child is born with talents.

This will be the first time Indian student’s experiment will be flown by NASA. (Really appreciable!)

Source: www.quora.com

Best Motivation Line Ever...

“When you are wasting your time, someone is working hard at the same time, and the day you compete with that person, you will lose.”

How can I stop being average?

Here is what average people do: They wake up at 10am, read some news, eat, watch Game of Thrones for 2 hours, eat more junk food, lay on the sofa and stare at their phones for three hours, and then probably watch more TV and sleep. Of course, there will be variations based on one’s social status and geographical locations - I’m largely generalizing, but this is what most average people do on weekends.

They don’t achieve much. They don’t have goals or plans, and they live everyday without much thought.

This is what I lived like for eighteen years.

Before college, all I wanted to do was get the guy I liked to notice me, or hang with all my friends and go downtown everyday. I wanted to get in a good university but I wasn’t actually willing to put in any effort. I didn’t actually work hard for anything.

You see the trend? I was comfortable.

And that’s where I got it wrong. I indulged in pleasure, not happiness. I let myself do whatever I wanted in the moment, without actually putting myself under pressure for a better future.

In high school, I binge watched Last Man on Earth instead of studying for my bio exam. In college, I ate chocolate and scrolled my Instagram for forty minutes instead of getting a head start on my business project.

Mother of God, what was I doing?

If you want to be above average, you need to get used to being uncomfortable.You need to get used to pain, to discomfort, to prolonged hours of just sitting there and forcing yourself to get through one more page of that fucking essay, one more lesson on code academy.

And in the age of distractions, it’s even harder. Messages, notifications, the allure of multiple social media accounts you gotta keep up to, piled with schoolwork and activities you gotta attend - it’s horror.

But those aren’t real excuses. Everyone goes through them. At the end of the day when you evaluate yourself, whether that’s when you graduate or when you die, you’ll see that nothing is excusable.

For me, my excuse for not working hard in high school was that “my mom forced me too much.” My mom’s excuse was that her mom "turned the TV on too loud so [she] couldn’t focus.”

Bull fucking shit.

You can lie to others but stop lying to yourself. The rest of this break, I want to get ahead on building traction for my blog as much as possible, and figure out what I want to do in the tech industry in the future.

If I say I “didn’t have enough time”, or “I was too tired”, then I’m lying to myself. I’m in Beijing for two and a half weeks and I have nothing to do.

So there. Fuck it. Fuck all the lies you keep telling yourself. If you want to be above average, then you have to be willing to drip blood and sweat for whatever you want to achieve - otherwise, you’ll just be left behind. A mere speck waiting to be extinguished by the trailing dust of the above-average.

Cherry Chen is a blogger at the blunt artist, a self-development and identity blog drizzled with poetry. Check out her website or send her a Quora mail if you’d like to connect.

Source: www.quora.com

What can I do to better myself in one month

1. Detoxify your speech. I mean reduce the usage of cuss words.
2. Read everyday. Doesn’t matter what. Choose whatever interests you.
3. Observe people. Imbibe their good habits.
4. Take a pledge to never talk rudely to your parents. They never deserve it.
5. No ego. No ego. No ego. Just learn, learn and learn.
6. Don’t be afraid to clarify doubts. “He who asks a question remains fool for 5 minutes. He who does not ask remains a fool forever”.
7. “I cried as I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet”. Don’t complain. Work harder.
8. Practice drinking 3 liters of water everyday.
9. Stay low key.
10. Wake up early.
11. Plan your day. Make a to do list in the morning.
12. Eat home cooked meals for one month.
13. Follow traffic rules. Do not break them unnecessarily. Do not break the queue. Offer your seat to somebody who needs more than you. I mean, try to be a good citizen.
14. Talk to yourself. Meditate.
15. Stay away from people who give you negative vibes.
16. Stop comparing yourself with others. Start competing with yourself.
17. Always remember, “The biggest failure in life is the failure to try”.
18. Eat raw vegetable salad atleast once a day.
19. Your body is your temple. Don’t litter it with junk.
20. Count your blessings and not the likes on your facebook post. There is a difference.
21. Take care of your health. “He who has health has hope and he who has hope has everything”

That’s all for now. I will add more later.

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One month is a good amount of time. You can do a lot!

Let’s do this, the Elon Musk, Warren Buffet, and Usain Bolt way.

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Improvement semantic tree:

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Idea: First come up with an idea with the Elon Musk way. I just made a semantic tree for you! You can make yours if you like.

You would do three things at the root. Then you would write more branches, and write down things you like to improve. Then you would create two more branches which will tell you your plan, and your personal tracking.

• Start:
• Nothing comes closer than this.
• Starting will give you largest gain.
• Hardest to do, but go do this!
• Pick up again:
• You need to apply this where you aren’t already.
• This will revive memory, and bring you back in action.
• These could be things like exercising, books that you are familiar with, but you keep dropping them.
• Improve:
• This will help you improve on things you are already doing.
• You have to be very systematic about what exactly your plan will be.

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I have covered various disciplines you can choose, you can choose more if you like:

• Arts
• Self discipline
• Public speaking
• Music
• Personal relations
• Fitness
• Technology business

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Your plan: You should implement like Warren Buffet!

• You would write on a paper who your role models are in those chosen disciplines. Say it could be some mentor, it could be some celebrity, it could be anyone, but write down exactly what you would have to do to to become like them.
• You would select those branches that would either maximize your biggest strengths, or minimize your biggest weaknesses.
• Maximizing your biggest strength will give you larger edge over competition.
• Minimizing your biggest weaknesses will eliminate your fears for your future, and will also minimize your competitive disadvantage.

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Execute: Do this like Usain Bolt!

Alright, now you have the best ideas, all you have to do is to track them as well as possible.

• Make a daily schedule.
• Track numbers.
• Improve numbers on a daily basis
• Refine plan better if you can.

No pain, no gain, and the entire amount of improvement will be because of how well you execute.

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Last words of wisdom, that I pretty much tell anyone and everyone: Your motivation will be limited and you will run out of it every now and then, but your discipline should help you make a comeback. Every. Single. Time.

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Here's the plan.

Consider, you pick a month of 30 days and focus only on improving yourself.

Now,

30 days=720 hours.

You will need minimum 6 hours of sleep every day.

So,

6 x 30= 180 hours.

720-180=540 hours.

Let's assume, your meals collectively take 1 hour, bathroom and washroom routine take about half an hour, social networking(whatsapp,fb,quora,LinkedIn,hike,etc) will take around an hour, and let's throw in an extra half an hour for other activities.

All this takes about 3 hours per day.

So,

3 x 30= 90 hours.

Now,

540-90= 450 hours.

Finally,

450÷30= 15 hours/ day.

You have 15 hours each day to learn something new and improve yourself. Can you imagine the number of possibilities here! You can decide upon anything, depending on your needs. But if you ask me, I'll suggest the following things.

1.Learn Tutting

Thinking how it will make you better? Don't worry. Here’s my explanation. First and foremost, it's one of the most interesting kinds of dance. Dancing releases Endorphins. Those make you happy. Happy people are naturally better people. Secondly, it's a cool hobby to add to your resume. It catches the attention of the interviewer and makes you look like a unique person. Added advantage, anyone, of any age, can learn Tutting easily. Give it a try.

2. Learn proper Weight Training.

People often put their health and physique at a lesser priority in life and when they start looking like a potato, two things happen. First, they become extremely self conscious and unhappy. Second, they mostly envy people who are in good shape. To save yourself from all this mess, start weight training. People (often women) neglect weight training, not knowing how beneficial it is! Don't run after Cardio. Lift weights. Regularly. Do it for a month, and you will see magical results!

3. Watch one ted talk a day.

If you want to improve yourself, listen to people who have been there, done that. Take notes. Observe how their body language is. Look into their profile. Study their work ethic. This is the best way to add an extra edge to your career.

4. Read atleast 3 different books

Pick one fiction, one non fiction and one light-hearted book and set a goal to finish all 3 of them within this 1 month. Distribute your time according to your mood. But make sure you read them everyday. At the end of the month, you will have a whole different perspective of things.

5. Watch 1 meaningful documentary every other day.

Documentaries are a great way to learn about important things in depth. The opinions and facts they provide are eye opening. Knowing and understanding them, makes you realise how important it is to be aware.

6. Go spend time with the people you love.

You never know the importance of a moment until it's gone. If you have people who love you unconditionally, spend time with them as much as you can. Coz time can snatch them away from you any second. So treasure each moment. Remember, Love is the ultimate thing that makes you a better person.

7. Change one habit that is bad for you.

If you are a chain smoker, work on quitting smoking. If you are a raging alcoholic, try to give up alcohol. If you are an impulsive shopper, learn to stop wasting money. I know it's easier said than done. That's why get help. Paid One, if necessary. You only have this one month to change that one thing about yourself that is stopping you from being a better person. Give it your best shot.

Source: Quora.com